You are here for a reason.

You’re so ready to get over your ex.
You’re sick of playing out the same unhealthy patterns.
You need to build some effing boundaries.

I’m here to help.

You’re ready to be a priority and not just an option. To re-find yourself and your confidence.

My purpose as a coach is to help you do just that.

Co-Host of The Ex-Philes: Breakups, Broken Hearts and Moving On

We want you to have happy, healthy relationships, and those start with flirting that leaves you feeling JUICY, not icky or doubting yourself. Regardless of what you (or they) call it, there are toxic, predatory flirting behaviors that are used in today’s scene. No amount of “I’m just kidding” makes them okay. We want to start a movement of sorts: dating is only worth it when it’s fun and feels good. So the Ex-Philes gals and here to give you permission to spot and call out this shit when you see it. Are you single and ready to mingle? In today’s episode we will chat about: -What negging looks like -Why it is ALWAYS wrong -Our personal experiences facing negging and toxic flirting behaviors -What to do when someone negs you -How to make you that you don’t engage in toxic flirting behavior Remember: you are not “too sensitive.” If it feels wrong, don’t put up with it. Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
  1. 63. Negging and toxic flirting
  2. 62. High-Conflict Coparenting with Katie
  3. 61. I Have a Broken Picker!
  4. 10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 10: Choose your own ending
  5. 10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 9: In the driver’s seat


Working with Clair was enlightening, positive, and safe. I was a little nervous before we began… Clair quickly set the tone, however, and by the end I felt heard and comfortable.

I have spoken to a lot of psychologists before. For some reason, I was not able to speak to them as candidly as I had hoped. Something about Clair’s personality allows one to feel listened to and heard, and I think that was the catalyst for getting me to open up and allow this process to work.

I could not have picked a better person to listen, as Clair is kind, unbiased, and forgiving. I admitted and spoke about things I would not generally feel comfortable to do. It’s not always pleasant sharing your darkest thoughts – but by sharing with Clair, I was able to get another perspective. Her analysis and advice was invaluable. I now understand I was being a little hard on myself, so I appreciate her allowing me to air everything out. 


Carol B.

Clair held a safe space where we co-created meaningful goals and actions to help me get out of an unfulfilling and stuck place in my life.  I felt totally seen and validated with her deep listening, powerful questions and constant encouragement.  I was able to take the proverbial shackles off, and make lasting changes that support my heart and soul.  If you are ready to make powerful shifts in your life, Clair is the coach for you!

Katie B.

Clair is a wonderful coach: anyone would be lucky to have her as a guide! When we started, I was at a crossroads of making definite plans: I wanted to control my inability to overthink things and move through a project without time delays. Coaching was a good opportunity to vent to an objective voice and receive constructive feedback and insight.

Miss No-Boundaries,

Are you ready to change unhealthy relationship patterns, build some healthy boundaries and never ignore red flags again?

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Clair Lofthouse

Your Heartbreak Glow Up Guide

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