You are here for a reason.

You’re so ready to get over your ex.
You’re sick of playing out the same unhealthy patterns.
You need to build some effing boundaries.

I’m here to help.

You’re ready to be a priority and not just an option. To re-find yourself and your confidence.

My purpose as a coach is to help you do just that.



The value of processing my thoughts, feelings, and emotions with an unbiased professional (who wants nothing more than to help) cannot be overstated. There’s only so much processing I can do with friends, parents, or my own journal; having someone to walk through my feelings with has made all the difference in my healing. Clair helped me to ask the questions of myself I didn’t know I should be asking, she gently widened my perspective of relationships and partners (past and future), and she challenged me to put the work in for my own benefit and no one else’s; I believe I wouldn’t have experienced any of that if Clair was not my coach.

If even a small part of you is considering coaching, I would strongly encourage you to sign up for one of Clair’s plans. What do you have to lose? Clair’s coaching service give you an incredible bang for your buck, and if it’s within your means, you will not regret the expense, I promise.

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Working with Clair was enlightening, positive, and safe. I was a little nervous before we began… Clair quickly set the tone, however, and by the end I felt heard and comfortable. I have spoken to a lot of psychologists before. For some reason, I was not able to speak to them as candidly as I had hoped. Something about Clair’s personality allows one to feel listened to and heard, and I think that was the catalyst for getting me to open up and allow this process to work.

I could not have picked a better person to listen, as Clair is kind, unbiased, and forgiving. I admitted and spoke about things I would not generally feel comfortable to do. It’s not always pleasant sharing your darkest thoughts – but by sharing with Clair, I was able to get another perspective. Her analysis and advice was invaluable. I now understand I was being a little hard on myself, so I appreciate her allowing me to air everything out. 


Working with Clair helped me regain my power and stop feeling so hopeless. Clair was able to show me how I could take back control of myself and move forward in a way that felt aligned and positive. She was knowledgeable and caring which helped me feel safe to open up and work through many of my deep-seated issues. Thanks to working with Clair I am feeling more confident than ever to build healthy relationships with others as well as with myself!


When I had the first meeting with you! It was so nice to be able to talk to a professional when most of your friends have started to say you should talk to a therapist because I’m not sure what to say to you anymore. You were very sweet and made me feel super comfortable! I had a great time working with you even though the topic was hard for me so I believe that means you did a great job. You helped me change my attitude about my future relationship endeavors and I really needed that. I’m doing really well now and I hope my next long term relationship is better than ever!

Carol B.

Clair held a safe space where we co-created meaningful goals and actions to help me get out of an unfulfilling and stuck place in my life.  I felt totally seen and validated with her deep listening, powerful questions and constant encouragement.  I was able to take the proverbial shackles off, and make lasting changes that support my heart and soul.  If you are ready to make powerful shifts in your life, Clair is the coach for you!

Katie B.

Clair is a wonderful coach: anyone would be lucky to have her as a guide! When we started, I was at a crossroads of making definite plans: I wanted to control my inability to overthink things and move through a project without time delays. Coaching was a good opportunity to vent to an objective voice and receive constructive feedback and insight.

Hey there Mr/Miss No-Boundaries,

Are you ready to change unhealthy relationship patterns, build some healthy boundaries and never ignore red flags again?

Download your free Recognizing Relationship Patterns Worksheet to start.

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Narcissism has become a topic of interest in the last few years, but what does it actually look like? Can we prevent ourselves from getting involved with toxic people? Buckle up, Jackie and I are taking a deep dive into our own experiences with narcissism and how to spot it. We cover: -Traits of narcissistic and toxic people -Why it is so easy to spot the red flags -Spotting narcissism on the first date -Our stories about dating some pretty scary dudes -How to get away from a narcissist Mentioned in this episode: Episode 63: Negging and toxic flirting More Ex-Philes resources: -Episode 110: I can’t get over how they treated me -Episode 68: Narcissism 101 with Chris -Episode 66: Am I in an abusive relationship? -Episode 52: Rescuer Syndrome PLEASE give Jackie some love! Follow her podcast That Girl The Podcast and find her on IG at https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlthepodcast/ and https://www.instagram.com/jackiebrubaker/ ____________________________________________________________________________ What topics would you like Jackie and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community. — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ex-philes/support
  1. 131: 🤔Am I Dating a Narcissist? 🤔
  2. Bonus track: Affirmations for jealousy
  3. 130: Jealousy in relationships
  4. 129: 📝 Identifying relationship patterns after a breakup 📝
  5. 128: 🔭Rediscovering Yourself After a Breakup (in three steps) 🔭

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