You are here for a reason.

You’re so ready to get over your ex.
You’re sick of playing out the same unhealthy patterns.
You need to build some effing boundaries.

I’m here to help.

You’re ready to be a priority and not just an option. To re-find yourself and your confidence.

My purpose as a coach is to help you do just that.



The value of processing my thoughts, feelings, and emotions with an unbiased professional (who wants nothing more than to help) cannot be overstated. There’s only so much processing I can do with friends, parents, or my own journal; having someone to walk through my feelings with has made all the difference in my healing. Clair helped me to ask the questions of myself I didn’t know I should be asking, she gently widened my perspective of relationships and partners (past and future), and she challenged me to put the work in for my own benefit and no one else’s; I believe I wouldn’t have experienced any of that if Clair was not my coach.

If even a small part of you is considering coaching, I would strongly encourage you to sign up for one of Clair’s plans. What do you have to lose? Clair’s coaching service give you an incredible bang for your buck, and if it’s within your means, you will not regret the expense, I promise.

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Working with Clair was enlightening, positive, and safe. I was a little nervous before we began… Clair quickly set the tone, however, and by the end I felt heard and comfortable. I have spoken to a lot of psychologists before. For some reason, I was not able to speak to them as candidly as I had hoped. Something about Clair’s personality allows one to feel listened to and heard, and I think that was the catalyst for getting me to open up and allow this process to work.

I could not have picked a better person to listen, as Clair is kind, unbiased, and forgiving. I admitted and spoke about things I would not generally feel comfortable to do. It’s not always pleasant sharing your darkest thoughts – but by sharing with Clair, I was able to get another perspective. Her analysis and advice was invaluable. I now understand I was being a little hard on myself, so I appreciate her allowing me to air everything out. 


Working with Clair helped me regain my power and stop feeling so hopeless. Clair was able to show me how I could take back control of myself and move forward in a way that felt aligned and positive. She was knowledgeable and caring which helped me feel safe to open up and work through many of my deep-seated issues. Thanks to working with Clair I am feeling more confident than ever to build healthy relationships with others as well as with myself!


When I had the first meeting with you! It was so nice to be able to talk to a professional when most of your friends have started to say you should talk to a therapist because I’m not sure what to say to you anymore. You were very sweet and made me feel super comfortable! I had a great time working with you even though the topic was hard for me so I believe that means you did a great job. You helped me change my attitude about my future relationship endeavors and I really needed that. I’m doing really well now and I hope my next long term relationship is better than ever!

Carol B.

Clair held a safe space where we co-created meaningful goals and actions to help me get out of an unfulfilling and stuck place in my life.  I felt totally seen and validated with her deep listening, powerful questions and constant encouragement.  I was able to take the proverbial shackles off, and make lasting changes that support my heart and soul.  If you are ready to make powerful shifts in your life, Clair is the coach for you!

Katie B.

Clair is a wonderful coach: anyone would be lucky to have her as a guide! When we started, I was at a crossroads of making definite plans: I wanted to control my inability to overthink things and move through a project without time delays. Coaching was a good opportunity to vent to an objective voice and receive constructive feedback and insight.

Hey there Mr/Miss No-Boundaries,

Are you ready to change unhealthy relationship patterns, build some healthy boundaries and never ignore red flags again?

Download your free Recognizing Relationship Patterns Worksheet to start.

Co-Host of The Ex-Philes: Breakups, Broken Hearts and Moving On

79. Thoughts that keep you STUCK after your breakup 🧠 The Ex-Philes: Break-ups, Broken Hearts and Moving On

Our minds and our thoughts play a huge role in how and when we recover from a breakup. From simply dwelling on missing your ex to continuing to cycle the same ideas about why the breakup happened and why it hurts so bad, we can end up staying in the same place with things. OR – we can turn things around by taking back control over the conversations we have with ourselves and stopping these unproductive messages in their tracks – NOW! There are a handful of thoughts that we hear a lot from people struggling to move past their breakup. Today we are going to break down four of them in the hopes that you will end the episode feeling supported, empowered, and maybe even a little wiser. Thoughts we discuss: -I want them to come back to me! -I have regrets about how I acted/I could have prevented the breakup -I want to keep in touch with them to be nice or not make them mad -I thought they were the one! As hard as it may seem, you DO have control over your thoughts. Ready to whip them into shape? Push play now 🙂 #breakups #dating #brokenhearty Want one-on-one coaching support to beat your breakup? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community. — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ex-philes/support
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