You are here for a reason.

You’re so ready to get over your ex.
You’re sick of playing out the same unhealthy patterns.
You need to build some effing boundaries.

I’m here to help.

You’re ready to be a priority and not just an option. To re-find yourself and your confidence.

My purpose as a coach is to help you do just that.

Co-Host of The Ex-Philes: Breakups, Broken Hearts and Moving On

Let’s talk rituals! Rituals are a way to make the everyday sacred or significant. They can also be used to celebrate and process transitions. After a breakup, they can help you embrace the finality of the relationship ending, make an energetic cut with your ex, embrace your power, and welcome the start of your new life. So, where to begin? In today’s episode, Janice and Clair share some of their own experiences with breakup rituals, give suggestions on how to design your own, and different ways to design a ritual depending on what you are ready to release or welcome in. AND – we invite ourselves to your next breakup party! Plus – another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? Get ready to create some magic in your life and beat your breakup with rituals! Have you done a ritual around your breakup that you found helpful? Or would you like to tell us about your breakup party? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
  1. 29. Rituals for Breakups
  2. 28. Love F*cking Sucks with Brett
  3. 27. Why Did They Move On So Fast?
  4. 26. Journaling During Your Breakup with Janice
  5. Positive Affirmations for Breakups (Bonus Resource!)


Working with Clair was enlightening, positive, and safe. I was a little nervous before we began… Clair quickly set the tone, however, and by the end I felt heard and comfortable.

I have spoken to a lot of psychologists before. For some reason, I was not able to speak to them as candidly as I had hoped. Something about Clair’s personality allows one to feel listened to and heard, and I think that was the catalyst for getting me to open up and allow this process to work.

I could not have picked a better person to listen, as Clair is kind, unbiased, and forgiving. I admitted and spoke about things I would not generally feel comfortable to do. It’s not always pleasant sharing your darkest thoughts – but by sharing with Clair, I was able to get another perspective. Her analysis and advice was invaluable. I now understand I was being a little hard on myself, so I appreciate her allowing me to air everything out. 


Carol B.

Clair held a safe space where we co-created meaningful goals and actions to help me get out of an unfulfilling and stuck place in my life.  I felt totally seen and validated with her deep listening, powerful questions and constant encouragement.  I was able to take the proverbial shackles off, and make lasting changes that support my heart and soul.  If you are ready to make powerful shifts in your life, Clair is the coach for you!

Katie B.

Clair is a wonderful coach: anyone would be lucky to have her as a guide! When we started, I was at a crossroads of making definite plans: I wanted to control my inability to overthink things and move through a project without time delays. Coaching was a good opportunity to vent to an objective voice and receive constructive feedback and insight.

Miss No-Boundaries,

Are you ready to change unhealthy relationship patterns, build some healthy boundaries and never ignore red flags again?

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Clair Lofthouse

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